Using the Internet to Catch a Cheating Spouse

Do you suspect that your husband or wife is cheating on you?  If you do, you may be looking for ways to catch him or her in the act.  One approach that you may want to take involves using the internet to your advantage.  The internet makes it relatively easy to men and women to develop secret relationships and to carry on affairs online.

When it comes to using the internet to catch a cheating spouse, you may not know where to proceed.  If you do not consider yourself to be computer savvy, the whole process may seem hopeless.  The good news is that you can catch your cheating spouse online and you may be able to do so in a few simple steps.

The easiest way to catch a cheating spouse who uses the internet is to install a keyword tracker program, also commonly referred to as a keylogger, on your computer.  These software programs are actually similar to programs that hackers use to get information from your computer.  They can also help you find out if your spouse is using the internet to cheat on you.  What these programs will do is record all words that are typed on a computer.  This allows you to examine emails, chat sessions, and so much more.

If you are interested in using a keyword tracker or a keylogger, be cautious of the programs that you do choose.  As previously stated, some hackers do use this similar technology.  Spending a few extra dollars to purchase a program, as opposed to using a free version online, is advised.  Many of these programs are marketed as internet safety tools for parents.

Another easy way to use the internet to catch a cheating spouse is to visit the online websites of their email accounts.  Even if you do not have a password to get into their account, there are still some things that you can do.  For example, most websites, like Hotmail and Yahoo, will automatically save the email address of the last person who used the website.  Examine these websites to see if one does show up.  Is it your partner’s main email address or are they using multiple accounts?  This may be a sign of a cheating spouse.

Your computer’s internet history may be a wealthy source of information for you.  Most computers allow you to check the websites visited within the last week or at least day by opening up a new internet window.  Next, click on the history icon button, which appears towards the top of your screen.  This icon displays a small clock with a green arrow wrapped around a portion of it.  What websites has your significant other visited in the past few days?  Be on the lookout for adult chat websites, pornographic websites, dating websites and so forth.

In keeping with the checking of your computer’s internet history, be suspicious of no information at all.  Has your computer’s internet history recently been cleared?  There are very few good reasons why it should have been.  Remember that many cheaters research ways, especially online, to not get caught.  A cleared internet history is a good sign that your husband or wife has something to hide.

If you suspect that your husband or wife is using the internet to cheat on you, there are two different approaches that you can take.  One of those approaches involves talking to them.  If you found proof online, show that proof to them.  You will then need to decide, together, where your relationship wants to go.  If you do decide to work on your relationship, please be cautious.  It is important to remember that your husband or wife now knows that you know how to track their movements online.

Another one of your options is to rely on the use of parental controls.  Treating your spouse like a teenager, however, may incite some anger in them.  There is nothing worse for a cheater than knowing that they have been caught or now needing a password to visit their favorite websites.

Beating Cheating: The Fastest And Easiest Way To Expose A Cheating Partner

How to reveal if your lover is cheating on you by keeping a special diary

Our minds aren’t perfect at remembering special details and specific facts – far from it. Our brains work selectively; they store and recall certain bits of information while forgetting others. For example, you might remember – for whatever reason – a phone number that has little or no importance to you, but forget the birthday of someone you really should buy a present for. On the most part, this selective/subjective memory trait creates no real problems in our day to day lives. We can look up a number if we forget it, or ask a friend of a friend for the day of the month on which someone’s birthday falls.

However, sometimes it can make things slightly trickier. One such time is when we suspect our partner may be cheating on us. Imagine you walk into the room just as your partner is putting down the phone and they seem a little on edge or tense as they turn around and see you. The incident may stick out in your mind for weeks, niggling at you, making you wonder: did it mean something, was it a sign? 

Fast forward to a different occasion, when your partner returns home from a business meeting or other engagement late and immediately jumps in the shower, even before properly saying ‘hi’ to you. You might rationalise their behaviour by thinking: “Well, they were probably tired or something. They surely just felt like refreshing themselves with a shower,” then forget all about it. 

You might be 100% right, but that’s not really the point. The strange phone incident and the unusual dash to the bathroom on returning home could both have happened because your partner is cheating on you, and conversely they both could be wholly innocent and not caused by infidelity. The point here is, remembering one incident over the other and thus giving it more weight or meaning than the other in your mind could potentially make it much more difficult to ascertain what is or isn’t going on – whether they’re trustworthy or not.

So, to combat the human tendency to selectively remember and therefore consider some incidents more than others, and therefore improve your chances of revealing the truth, you should keep an objective, non-selective record of everything that happens. Here’s how it works:

1. Use a journal or diary, not a digital method of recording events, changes in behaviour/habits/moods, etc. Noting things in your own handwriting allows each piece of information recorded to be absorbed more deeply and permanently by your mind than if you type them out quickly on a computer. Also, paper records (a diary, journal, etc.) are usually more portable than laptops, PC’s, etc., which could come in handy if/when you spot a potential sign of infidelity away from home.

2. Keep your journal as objective and neutral as humanly possible. Note the time something unusual, strange or suspicious occurs, if you’ve noticed it before, and what it consists of. For example, saying: “Today (insert date) they came home 2 hours later than usual from work, it’s happened once before and they offered no reason or explanation for their lateness” is much better and more useful in the long run than: “They came home late again! They had no reason to be late at all. It must mean something.” So, be specific, neutral, accurate and non-judgemental. A time will come when you’ll make a decision on whether or not you can trust them and it’ll be then when an emotional response will be completely warranted and understandable. Until then, record what happens like a robot – it’ll help unravel the mystery and reveal what the hell is or isn’t going on.

3. Finally, keep your journal/record hidden away somewhere where it won’t be stumbled upon by your partner. If they ARE cheating and find your diary, it could easily make them more secretive and more careful not to give out noticeable signs of their infidelity in the future – thus making your job of uncovering the truth more difficult. If they find it and are NOT cheating, they could feel insulted or hurt that you don’t fully trust them. That’s an issue that, if appropriate, can be brought up by you after you’ve completed your little ‘investigation’. For now, secretiveness is quite possibly one of your greatest allies in discovering whether or not your partner’s having an affair.

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